Hello Ladies and HOHs,
I have a blog I love to write and I keep it upbeat and funny. Unfortunately that is not the place for expressing how domestic discipline works in the lives of me and my HOH, so here I am joining the masses and hoping to make some friends who won't think I'm crazy for our lifestyle choice :)
I guess I'll do the basic lame introduction. I'm Ashley and my boyfriend's name is David and we started practicing DD about 2 months ago. Most people I see use letters to say who is who in this type of blog but our names are so ridiculously common that I don't think it's going to cause a massive privacy issue. We are young (I'm 19, he's about to turn 22) but shortly after moving in with him near the base he's stationed at (he's army in case you were wondering) I brought up my need for DD in my life and I was lucky enough to have a man who didn't hesitate. Seriously, not in the slightest. He jumped at it and said it was perfect for us.
And to be honest, it has been beyond perfect for us. Where most newly cohabiting couples are still in the intense fighting stage, we are doing just dandy. When fights arise it is quickly taken care of via communication and punishment. It has greatly opened up the lines of communication between us and I know I've never been more in love or felt so loved, safe, and secure.
We're still in the early stages though so input from anyone (productive input, not negative, judging comments of course) would be welcomed and much appreciated. We've set up our basic guidelines around our home and they are rather simple:
1. Get chores done
*he generally leaves me a list before he leaves for work but regardless it's basic cleaning and vacuuming is to be done ever 2-3 days
2. Don't act like a baby
*I'm the worst when it comes to acting my age when I'm upset, frustrated, or otherwise hormonal and it's the single most frustrating thing for him. I'm working on it...
3. Always lock the door after I come inside
4. Obey
*pretty basic concept, hard to do. Just listen the first time I'm told. Probably the worst thing I do and the most often overlooked (much to my dismay) by HOH.
5. Respect
*this goes along with obeying but just general respect. If there's an issue I am to come to him in an appropriate manner to discuss it.
That's pretty much it. I know a lot of couples have huge lists but we find keeping it simple does best for us. Though rules can be added at any time.
Today was quite obviously the start of us expanding on our knowledge of DD and putting it to use. Last night I made the mistake of procrastinating on the cleaning. He's working the night shift this week for rotation so evenings are when I'm doing the cleaning right now. Noise isn't an issue with most cleaning. I got all the quiet stuff done. But vacuuming is loud and would be rude to do after dark since we live in an apartment. I didn't take that into consideration when I was playing on facebook rather than cleaning and before I knew it it was near 11pm and much too late and he would be home at 6am. My first thought unfortunately was to lie about it. I assumed he'd notice and I figured I'd just insist I had done it. But I also know that with him I am impossibly bad at lying and he was going to notice and I'd be in trouble.
He actually didn't notice at all and in fact told me I had done a great job cleaning up. He never fails when it comes to compliments and making me feel appreciated for sure. But that just made me feel guilty knowing I hadn't done everything I was told to do. After a few hours I confessed. See what this lifestyle has done to me? Gahh. He appreciated the confession however I had indeed still not done it and also I should have told him immediately not hours after the fact. He had been reading up on how to properly lecture and that was obvious as he gently took me to the bedroom to discuss things. His lecturing was very good though from my end....ha not fun. We've never tried any punishments other than spanking and rather light ones at that. But today he said because the computer had been the issue my laptop would be off limits for a while as would any computer related activities on my phone...such as facebook.
Once again I made a mistake. I started to argue and complain and pout and insist he couldn't take away the use of anything on my phone. I was warned that he'd take my phone entirely and leave me to have some time in the bedroom (also a new one. He's been reading too much!). But I escalated my whining so much that he skipped that and moved to a spanking. He's gotten better. It hurt more but he was more loving with it than he's ever been before that I was better able to accept it and hold still and I only put my hand back once which is a problem for me. Any help there from anyone? Quite honestly, it was just the release I needed and I felt much better and more submissive to him immediately.
So apparently new punishment options are on the table. Goodie. Tonight I vacuumed and cleaned early and we have decided we are going to spend tomorrow reading up on DD because we firmly believe that the better we get at this, the better we are going to be as a couple.
Anywho, welcome to my new blog! I know this first entry was long but if you've made it here...good job! lol If you happen to stop by here introduce yourself! I'd love to hear from you :)
Toodles!
Ash
